Its been a long time since I've sat down and blogged. I was going to make a point of doing it daily, like a journal but finding the time to sit down at the desktop isnt always an option. (I hate the keyboards on portable computers and my tablet touchscreen keyboard is a pain in the ass, this is why I chose desktop). So then I wanted to make an effort once a week, well as you can see, that didnt happen either. As a matter of fact, once bi-weekly, monthly or bi-monthly didnt work either so now its been months of silence and I feel compelled to write today so here I am.
Alot has happened since my last entry. I signed my final divorce papers three days after Christmas 2011 and went before the Judge to final it very early 2012 so I am officially divorced. This hasnt been an easy transition for the kids at all and I try daily to make everything about them. Their mom, well shes always made the divorce about her which I can't control that, having already introduced a new boyfriend to them even before we signed the final papers, again poor judgment. The divorce was what she wanted so she got exactly that & in the end, I've had time to regroup and realize just how badly she consumed my life with negativity even when the marriage was new.
So that being said, I took on a path of meeting new people, POSITIVE people that dont have time to see the negative in everything but always find the positive instead. Its refreshing to hear about someone who has suffered their entire life growing up and rather than point fingers and blame, they are constantly striving to overcome and move forward. One extreme example of exactly this type of positivity happens to be The Dutchess. (I chose to keep her real name private due to her up and coming R&B breakout). When I met her, even before I could see her face from across the room, I was in love. It was that classic case of "you'll know when you meet them" and that couldnt be more true. Everytime I looked into her eyes, it was like I was seeing her for the first time all over again. She is the most amazing person I've ever met hands down.
Her life was filled with negative roadblocks which quite honestly, I was moved to tears a few times by how hard she had it as a child growing up but what I loved the most was how she told all the stories with a smile on her face and said how that experience made her move to the next level of positive movement. It gave me a feeling inside that I just can't explain but made me realize there wasnt anything I wouldnt do to help this girl or be there for her as she climbs to success in the music industry. Her love for family, the closeness to her mom is by far something any person would envy. I was humbled to be in her presence sometimes just listening to how much her family struggled yet their love and devotion towards each other kept things always positive. Very inspirational girl who will always be one of the most amazing people I've ever met and for sure the FIRST GIRL that I ever fell in love with as an adult. Ti Amo, Dutchess
This brings me to where I feel I want this blog to go, aiming towards the positive people that just make life that much better when you are around them whether it be in person or via social networks. I've had the pleasure of meeting a very large network of amazing Italian people via reality TV. These are individuals that exist in any REAL Italian neighborhood and we can associate that we know someone just like any one of them but overall, we feel like they are now "FAMILY" because of how appreciative they are for fan support.
@carfellamikeyD aka Mike DeLucia and his beautiful wife Nanci are constantly updating fans of where they are, who they met and ALWAYS interact with fans which makes them feel as though you've known them all your life. As it turns out, although the Italian population is massive on the east coast especially, its not uncommon to know someone that knows someone that knows Mike so in the end you know them by association as well as by who they are on TV. His crew Tommie & Mario, although dont engage as much with the fans on social networks, you have a feel that they are aces in person and any friend of Mikey D is a friend of mine. #carfellas
@GiovanniPaoloNY @BIGCHIPmamasboy @PrettyboyPeteD @anthonymamasboy @bxmamasboys having just met all of the crew on Monday nights, I'm already impressed with how they all have allowed each one of us, the fans, to become involved in their lives at home. They interact with everyone on the social networks and are extremely appreciative of the support they receive. Yet another group of Italian people who never forget where they come from & know who their friends are. The Italian culture can be misunderstood sometimes so a show such as #mamasboysofthebronx can appear to the average WASP that these guys are "using" their moms and should move out. Well what you see on TV is an exaggerated example of what looks to be somewhat odd but what you dont see is the off camera, everyday life of these individuals (and many more you dont know) who will do anything for their family, the world revolves around their moms, and the close unity of friends & family that truly defines each one of these guys who will always have the utmost respect for anyone who respects them back. In the true Italian culture, the Italian son can do no wrong & is worshiped by their moms and in return the true dynamics of family values are learned that above all else, we never forget where we truly came from, the person who gave us life in the first place.
I'm fortunate to have also met, through the above named individuals one of the most positive people I think this world has ever known. @Stucatz Big Vin has the most amazing, uplifting words of the day so to speak that just makes you feel that there are no obsticles in life that can't be overcome. We need more people like this around each one of us so that it helps us realize that no matter what is going on around us daily, there is always something positive to be found if we look hard enough. Thats an amazing way to look at life if you really sitdown and understand it. I've always been optimistic, mostly positive, so I appreciate when there is someone who lives, breathes positive energy and makes everyone around them feel the passion for being the same way.
When the doctors told me they were unsure I'd make it to see my youngest daughter turn 2, I didnt curl up in a little ball and demand "why me"? I was determined to prove them wrong and having received this news during a very negative divorce, I still maintained the most positive demeanor that to this day, most people around me dont even know I'm having medical issues. Its all about how you channel your energy and make negative in your life turn towards a positive direction. I saw my little girl turn 2, that was November 2011 and I'm sitting in front of a computer telling you all about it in April 2012 so you can see for yourself what positive energy has to offer anyone willing to engage in it daily. Yes its true that what I have has no known cure, and yes its a fatal syndrome which can take me anyday, anytime but you know what, its going to have to come at me with gloves on because I am fighting this shit right to the grave my friends. I set goals to achieve and I'm moving forward day to day with positive energy and positive people. I want to thank you personally Vinny, I read alot of things but your words have extreme impact for me and its confirmation that my positive outlook on life even with negative anchors attached, its the good I see instead of the bad. You've justified that by what you write and share with each of us in your posts. Grazie!
In closing i'd like to say that you always need to be proud of who you are and where your family came from. Regardless of the ethnicity, you always put your best foot forward and show the world that a positive outlook will overcome any and all negative anchors that we all have to deal with daily. Strive forward in life never forgetting where you came from, use the power of family to achieve the highest goals imaginable and live to make a difference in not only your childrens lives but all those you come in contact with as you go about your daily activities. Thanks for reading and make sure you follow the lives of some truly great people on TV such as #mobwives #carfellas #mamasboysofthebronx etc... Ciao all!